Have you have ever said yes when you’re body was saying no?
Have you ever kept quiet to keep the peace?
Have you ever pushed harder, become “more reasonable,” or tried to perfect things a bit more…hoping maybe this time it will be different?
These are slow and almost invisible ways that we step out of our bodies, away from ourselves.
Self-abandonment isn’t necessarily dramatic. In fact, we’re often praised for it, because other people (and systems) benefit from the patterns that keep so many of us stuck: people-pleasing, perfectionism, comparison, and relationships that ask us to shrink in order to belong.
Today on the podcast, I’m revisiting a conversation with Yasmine Cheyenne, because I know we’re all holding so much right now. And I think this one will help us let go, if even just a little bit.
Yasmine helps us name what’s underneath these patterns—not as personal failures, but as learned strategies. Ways we figured out how to stay safe, connected, and needed.
We talk about:
the connection between boundaries and burnout
how our past shapes the choices we make now
what it really means to choose yourself without fear being in charge
the truth about why comparison feels so hard to let go of
how family dynamics affect the way we operate in the world
red flags to look out for in relationships
Ahead of the “new year, new you” messages, I want to be very clear: This episode isn’t about fixing ourselves.
It’s about recognizing where we’ve been leaving ourselves behind, and offering a little more compassion in those places.
If you’re feeling tired, stretched thin, or quietly questioning why you keep ending up in the same cycles, I hope this conversation feels like an exhale. A reminder that you’re allowed to take up space, change your mind, and see your body as your home—not your project.
I am so, so glad you’re here.
Wishing you as much ease as this strange, tender season allows. And looking forward to hearing what comes up for you as you listen. xox, Abbie
